un·com·fort·a·ble – causing or feeling unease or awkwardness. The awkwardness of life can make what is right uncomfortable.

You know that moment when someone you love does something stupid. Your child farts. Loud. At church. Or you realize that something you believe in and work hard for is really not what you thought it should be. Or could be. This year we see the shoeing rules because of soring horses. And the election and healthcare system. And the school system. And we hear grandstanding over things that shouldn’t be the focus of the discussion.

Social media has made the term “discussion” have a totally different meaning. So when we get that uncomfortable feeling do we stop or do we go? Do we avoid the discussion because we know it will be a fight and really don’t have the energy for that one. Or is it important to us? I am texting an associate right now who is stretching the truth a bit and having selective memory, but I am engaging in a discussion about the situation instead of telling them to get fucked. Would the world be better if we all used the F word more?

Why do we say that blunt people are rude? Blunt people get stuff done. Blunt people are respected more and blunt people don’t get pushed around. We as a society need to bask in the glory of uncomfortableness. When the feeling of being uncomfortable comes we should embrace it and know it is time to act.

Seth Godin speaks of the lizard brain and how we run from fear. His suggestion is to run at the fear or at least recognize the fear as a signal that you are on the right track. I believe the goal should be to engage in what makes us uncomfortable, keep the focus and have discussions in a way that can bring positive change. Without hate.

I sometimes have a colleague read my posts prior to posting them. She pointed out that there are references to both sides of the political turmoil in this post. Isn’t that interesting that I was not even trying to do that. What if we all decided to stop the choosing sides, pick a direction that we want things to go and work on that direction. Like a true north position.

How important do you think it is to run at the fear, embrace the uncomfortable and engage in the discussion?

By |2018-12-17T14:02:14-06:00November 7th, 2016|Life|4 Comments


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    Lory Kohls November 11, 2016 at 9:05 am - Reply

    When I run from fear my problems get bigger not solved. Example I felt a problem with my horse’s canter and started avoiding shows. Soon my confidence drop, I was less assertive and began worrying over everything .

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      Hoyt Rose November 11, 2016 at 8:59 pm - Reply

      That’s great Lory. I agree running from fear makes the problem bigger.

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    Eleanor November 11, 2016 at 4:15 pm - Reply

    Hoyt–You quote “your child Farts loud in Church”. Is that the same as when your dog throws up when you have company?

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      Hoyt Rose November 11, 2016 at 8:57 pm - Reply

      Miss Eleanor, That is exactly the same!

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